The 7 Biggest Mistakes People Make When Planning An Alternative Wedding


I was honored beyond words the first time I was asked to perform a wedding ceremony for a couple. I accepted the invitation and became a registered Wedding Celebrant. Since that first wedding back in 2010, I have had the honor of marrying several couples, all of whom wanted what I call an "alternative wedding," that is, a wedding which is sacred and spiritual, created through the unique expression of spirituality of the couple.

"Alternative weddings" are often desired when the couple feels that the traditional religions (of their families, or of society) do not speak to or resonate with their own unique desire for something sacred.  They want their wedding to be aligned with who they are and have a true spiritual dimension, something more than just the very business-like City Hall wedding or a kitsch Las Vegas drive-though.

All weddings are stressful and intense. This is true for mainstream, conventional weddings and it may be doubly true for weddings that are off the beaten path of people's exceptions.

In my work, I started to notice patterns, the main one being that, more often than not, these alternative ceremonies do not go smoothly and are an emotional roller coaster for all parties involved! Perhaps the simplest example of this is how one's parents and grandparents often want more traditional ceremonies; when you and your partner do not conform to the ideals and expectations of your families, the tension can mount very quickly.

Ordinary tensions that emerge when planning a wedding can turn horribly magnified when planning an alternative wedding. After witnessing this phenomenon several times, I gained a whole new insight into Romeo and Juliet. I felt like saying to one set of future in-laws, “Hey, the Capulets and the Montagues called. They want their storyline back.”  Oh the drama this family was spinning out! Initially, I was so shocked that I found I had to sit quietly on the sidelines, not really knowing what to say in the heat of the moment.

You would be surprised how even simple things like the choice of a song, or not wanting to wear the mother's wedding dress, or not serving a traditional food, can be sources of stress.  If such minor disagreements can turn nasty, imagine the hostility that can surface if a wedding couple goes against someone's moral or religious beliefs. Let me tell you, it can get unexpectedly ugly and the tension can mount as the days get closer and closer.

In some cases, there were family members and friends that were downright abusive, leaving brides and grooms to be, at best, distracted from their own special day, at worst, deeply hurt. After seeing these unfortunate patterns in my first few weddings, I decided to start running interference to avoid wedding day disasters. Being that my primary role is a healer, I felt it was my duty to protect the well-being of my clients. 

In writing this, therefore, I hope to give would-be couples some tips for emotional preparedness so that they can avoid unnecessary drama on the day of their wedding. I want to encourage the to-be-betrothed to use this opportunity, in preparation for their alternative wedding, to voice their wishes to their friends and families, and to do the necessary prep work to make sure their day is truly sacred.


Rule # 1

Don’t let anyone or anything divide and conquer you and your partner.


This is not just advice for the wedding but advice for the whole marriage. You are a team and your primary concern and loyalty is to one another. Don’t let anyone split the energy of your team - not your parents, your siblings, your kids (if you have them), your work, your fantasy-football or Pinterest addiction, your bad habits. If you have meddling influences from outside sources and they split you as a couple, you can expect a lot of stress and unpleasant wedding experiences. 

Don’t agree to anything (except maybe the dress) without consulting your partner. Don't make assumptions as to what your partner wants if you are not sure. Don't let anyone else hijack your special day. And don’t be afraid to tell other people that might be crossing the line, “Look, this is not personal. It’s just that our wedding is about us and I need to consult with my partner before we take your advice.”

What helps is to have a clear idea and vision of what you want the wedding to be about.  What energy (feelings, atmosphere) do you and your partner want to convey to family and friends? How do you want people to feel at your wedding? Make sure you have each other's back in sharing your collective vision for your special day. While it is natural that one partner be more involved in the planning than the other, try to make decisions together and stay in-tune with what your partner is going through.


Rule # 2

People that are on the fence about your wedding… get them off the fence.


Weddings can cause difficult religious or emotional conflicts for some people that don't surface until it is time for the actual ceremony. A friend or family member may love the couple yet discover that the marriage is in conflict with their personal morals or beliefs. Such a person may feel confused and surprised at their own conflict because they believed they only wanted to support the couple. This conflicted energy is the worst kind of energy to have, especially if they show up to your day and haven't worked that internal conflict out. They are what I call "sitting on the fence" about your wedding. You have to get them off the fence.

In one wedding I officiated, a couple invited an “on the fence” friend to speak at the wedding. This person began a 7-minute long sermon quoting from their personal doctrine (and from their religion's sacred scripture). It was awkward not only because the person's ambivalence came through and it disputed the tone of the wedding but because they were literally preaching to people and rambling on and on and losing everyone's sympathy. 

A wedding is a celebration of the couple's love. It is not a time to have a speaker lead people to take a moral inventory. In this particular case, I don't believe it was the person's intent to undermine her friends; she really felt she was doing the right thing to introduce some moral teachings into that celebratory day. However, it was inappropriate, awkward and made certain people visibly uncomfortable.

It is important to speak to people you suspect may have a conflict with your matrimony, before you invite them to your wedding. You can explain, "I know this marriage is in conflict with your personal beliefs, but if you can’t come with your whole heart and be supportive, we would rather you not come. It won’t be fun for you and it won't be fun for us.” 

If you are going to let them speak at your wedding, give them a time limit: 3 minutes is a good time frame, but not more than 5. Give them a theme to keep them on topic with your wedding.You would be surprised how disruptive and distracting that conflict can be on your special day. Get clear about what you want and don't be afraid to ask for what you need.  If they choose not to support the wedding one hundred percent than bless them and let them go.  Yes, even if it's your parents or grandparents.

I have held the hand of a groom in tears whose parents had made the decision the night before not to attend. The groom was sure they would see how in love he was and “do the right thing and show up,” so he let them wait to decide until the 11th hour. I kept insisting that he give his parents a decision date so he could be prepared but he didn't want to do it. He was crushed on the eve of his wedding when it was just his brother that got off that plane at the airport. The rehearsal dinner was dampened by this sudden jolt of bad news. 

So, no matter how hard it is to confront people, even your own parents and other family members, you owe it to yourself and your partner to have these conversations well in advance of your wedding. Give them a deadline to decide if they are coming so that you can have time to process your own feelings and thoughts - whether positive or negative - and so that you are not having to handle upsets or surprises on your big day. Keep in mind rule #1: You are having this ceremony in honor of you and your partner's well being, happiness, and lives together.


Rule # 3

Sacred takes more than 5 minutes!


I often see in alternative weddings that couples plan an extremely short service and have no real vision for the ceremony. Given that the overwhelming amount of wedding advice out there is geared toward making your wedding visually stunning and, let's face it, more about the after party, it's easy to understand how couples lose sight of the preparation that is needed for the ceremony itself.

Remember that the ceremony is the reason it’s called a wedding. It is a sacred contract you are making to tie your lives together. Sacred contracts require the couple's intentions, sentiments and values to be voiced and the participants' attention to what is voiced and all of this takes time. Plus, you want to give yourselves enough time to savor the joy of the ritual.

While there is never any official time that it takes to have a ritual, in general you can safely bet that it should take more than just a few minutes. Playing/singing songs, lighting candles, sharing poems and readings from sacred texts: these are not just nice things to do, they actually build up the necessary tension (and heart-felt attention!) so that the moment when you do make the exchange of vows you can feel the shift in energy.

Don’t rush through your ceremony and don’t let your celebrant rush either. Take your time and set a clear intention to make your space sacred. By doing so, you not only extend the blessing to one another, you also extend that blessing to the whole community in attendance at your wedding. Allow yourselves to savor the moment and allow your guests to savor it too, since they have likely travelled from afar and gotten dressed up to bear witness to you and your vows on your special day. As a general rule give your ceremony a good 30-45 minutes but not longer than an hour.

Rule #4

People are there to Toast
You not Roast You.

Ah, to be in the age of disclosure where we live out loud and on-line and let it all hang out. However, would-be brides and grooms, heed my advice: don’t let your wedding be open mic night! Make sure you remind your speakers that, while you have invited them to share from their hearts, they are NOT to use their time at the podium to do any of the following:

        > Vent
        > Humiliate
        > Insult
        > Bring up embarrassing things you did together in college
        > Talk about previous relationships. 

Yes, I have seen all that and more. Most of the time, the guests and the wedding party find certain anecdotes funny, but sometimes it can be so awkward you can cut the tension in the air with the wedding cake knife. This goes not only for the ceremony but for the reception. So, brides and grooms, print this out and highlight it in yellow and hand this part to your best men and maids of honor:

Dear Best Man and Maid of Honor,
 
We love you and we know you have a hard job…but please do not use the sacred and special honor of being asked to make a toast to: spring a surprise, practice your stand-up comedy routine, give us a grocery list of the bride's/groom's many faults, tell inappropriate stories, drone on for 7 minutes about your every childhood experience you had together, and more than anything, do not use the toast to talk about yourself!

The toast is for us and therefore it is not about you. Let us repeat: the toast is not about you! No one attending the wedding needs your backstory as to why you are the wing-man or BFF and what your experience has been so far to date of our wedding. No one cares. Standing up for either of us also means standing back so don't try to upstage our moment. 

Keep your toast short, and to the point, a little humor is fine but keep in mind the ritual is actually to get everyone to take a drink and wish us well and good luck. Keep focused and don’t forget to ask everyone at the end to raise their glass and toast us, the happy couple, and then say the actual toast which is usually one sentence: "To Chris and Casey" or "To the Happy Couple."

Rule # 5

Don’t be driven by YouTube & Instagram


We have all seen those magical youtube wedding processions and reception dance videos that have gone viral. It’s a thing of awe when people can take a moment like that and make it look like a Broadway musical meets an episode of Glee. However, you know you are in trouble if you are taking too much of your time and energy to wow people with a routine just so you can have it get a bunch of likes or shares by people you don't know and don't care about. If something like that organically happens great, but if you have two left feet and were not a theater major in college, which helps a lot, don't fret about it. 

On a similar note, it's always a nice thing to ask guests to NOT take pictures or videos with their cell phones. It’s a huge distraction to everyone, especially the person taking the videos. In the age of a million and one "selfies" streaming across Facebook and Instagram, you might want to consider making an announcement before the wedding for people to please not use any of their electronic devices during the ceremony, because you want them to actually experience the ceremony and not worry about getting reportage! You can leave that to the photographer and videographer. What you should be focused on is what's going on internally.


Rule # 6

Modern Families can be Tricky. Get a Life Coach.


Traditionally, the purpose of pre-wedding events (such as the rehearsal dinner) is to get all parties involved working together. The tricky thing with these events, of course, is that any kind of group gathering will always kick up your stuff. In my healing practice, when I facilitate group work, I know that the process of bringing a group of people together will oftentimes cause them to act out the role they played in their families growing up. The same thing happens at weddings: people can get unexpectedly triggered and bad behavior can ensue. 

Therefore, don’t be surprised when "triggers" happens, be prepared. Who do you know that's a great mentor that everyone seems to like and listen to? Empower that person as the "go to" to help hold the space and keep things going smoothly.

This is especially important if you have someone in your party that is going through a difficult time in their lives. Perhaps they just got a divorce or haven’t been able to find a partner and they are feeling down. The energy of the wedding can really bring up strong emotions. Combine that with the stress and lots of alcohol and you have a recipe for a whole lot of acting out. So make sure there are some well-grounded people on your special day that can help hold everything in check. 

 

Recently I was at a wedding where the person that was assigned to be the Master of Ceremonies showed up to the wedding 20 mins late and drunk. To compound the issue, this person went on drinking heavily at cocktail hour to the point that the bartender had to cut them off. All before dinner! The couple were more than a little upset by this behavior and at a loss for what to do. Finally, one of the parents had to gracefully intervene, pulling the mic out of this person's hands and asking them to leave. It could have been a disaster - and thankfully few people noticed - however, it was extremely stressful to the couple and a needless distraction. This kind of behavior is woefully common at weddings so be prepared by having a "go to" person to keep watch over the flock and make sure everything runs smoothly.


Rule # 7

Audio.. audio.. audio!


Having an alternative wedding often involves places that are off the beaten path, such as in a park, at the beach, or in a garden. Keep this in mind: you will need excellent audio or no one will hear anything you or anyone else is saying. No matter how many times I point his out, people often cut corners on the audio or don't take into consideration airplanes that may be flying over head, or motorcycles or busses that are rumbling by, or the sound of the ocean waves. Make sure you have a set up where there is adequate audio for all. It may be necessary for the couple to each wear a wireless mic, as well as the wedding celebrant. 

It is frustrating when you invite people to your ceremony and no once can hear. I once had a groom fight me on this for his garden wedding. He finally gave in but was not happy. Sure enough one of the speakers didn't want to use the mic and looked out at the wedding party and said “You can all hear me can’t you?” They all responded in unison, “No!”  So he was forced to use the mic. In as much as it is your day and your special vows, it is very frustrating for people to come out to your day and feel like they are invisible. Make sure everyone can participate in the wedding and give it their full attention by securing good audio!



I hope following these principles will help ensure that you have a truly harmonious and joyful celebration on your special day.

*to protect anonymity of some of the details have been altered or omitted.

What are Space Clearings? Do I need one?

Energy Balancing and harmony are vital not only to the physical body but to the space within which we work and live.  Tragic events, stressful situations, and prolonged periods of stress, or strong emotional attachments to objects or dwellings can lead to problems for present and future occupants of living and work spaces.  Space clearing can have enormous benefits on the physical, emotional and financial health and well-being of all that interact with and occupy affected spaces.  Space clearings can be quite simple or in some instances in the case of a death or other tragic events can heart-centered loving rituals for transmutation of the heavy energies.  Space are done in 2 parts first there is an initial consolation and walk of the space to assess the issues and determine the remedy.

For more information you can view my participation in the Travel Channels Dead Files Revisited where I was called in by a family to heal their space in after it was determined to have several issues affecting the occupants.

What is EFT?

The Emotional Freedom Technique, or EFT, is the psychological acupressure technique I routinely use in my practice and most highly recommend to optimize your emotional health. Although it is still often overlooked, emotional health is absolutely essential to your physical health and healing - no matter how devoted you are to the proper diet and lifestyle, you will not achieve your body's ideal healing and preventative powers if emotional barriers stand in your way.

  • Remove Negative Emotions
  • Reduce Food Cravings
  • Reduce or Eliminate Pain
  • Implement Positive Goals

EFT is a form of psychological acupressure, based on the same energy meridians used in traditional acupuncture to treat physical and emotional ailments for over five thousand years, but without the invasiveness of needles. Instead, simple tapping with the fingertips is used to input kinetic energy onto specific meridians on the head and chest while you think about your specific problem - whether it is a traumatic event, an addiction, pain, etc EFT can be very effective.

What is Shamanic Energy Medicine?

Shamanic Energy Medicine is the ancient science of what we now call epigenetics. Thought a serious of techniques and rituals shamanic energy medicine profoundly improves the quality of your energetic body and instructs our cells, molecules and DNA to create health wellness and balance.

Most modalities accept that your health or lack thereof, and your emotions are created by and operated by the instructions of your ancestral family.  Thus, most of us do not think that we can change our inherited illness and dramas - be they mental, emotional or physical.  Not True!   With shamanic energy medicine, the practitioner utilized subtle undetected energies to switch off genes and erase imprints of disease that create pathology.  You will transmute this energy and as the result you will transform your life elegantly

Understanding Soul Retrieval

The Main Concern of Shamanic Healers is Soul Retrieval It is perhaps the oldest known form of healing on the planet There are many ways to bring back a lost soul part- while shamans all over the world appear to be doing very different types of healing- in essence they are all doing the same thing- restoring the souls integrity
How Do I know if I need a Soul Retrieval? 
Many people know instinctively that they are missing a part of themselves They hear about soul retrieval and it makes sense to them, or they have an "ah-ha" moment where they realize that it is something that applies to them
symptoms/indicators of soul loss can include: Feelings of depression

A feeling of being incomplete

Post-traumatic stress syndrome or PTSD like symptoms

Inability to move past an issue despite efforts to clo so feeling like you've done everything you can do but are still stuck Feeling disconnected from lire, you don't really reel, you can't connect Memories in your past when you say-I feel that I lost something that I never got back A sense that someone took a part of you, your bear, your soul, or that you were not the same once they left you or bed You keep wanting to return to a person, or a location that seems unhealthy or unlikely, even though there is no apparent reason for you to do so Lost memories, like a part of your history is "missing" The feeling that soul retrieval may help you.

It isn't necessary for you to have an extreme symptom, to indicate soul loss It is certainly true that some people have experienced benefits even though they were not sure that they hal soul Icas or not If you reel this is something you might want to try, that is a good reason to contact a practitioner They can go on a diagnostic journey to rial out if this would be best for you at this time
The following benefits are possible with soul retrieval: Easier to move forward on an issue that has been troubling your sense of being more fully present in your life - You rfnd it easier to make certain decisions or make certain changes
You rind that some characteristic you have struggled with such as hopefulness, confidence, anger may improve or go away after a soul retrieval
You can connect to things more easily.

You are more fully present
Additionally it possible for the following challenges to be brought up with a soul retrieval: 
You may have feelings of sadness or depression because of the time that went by missing this part of you Issues that you have previously been unwilling to deal with can come to the surface You may find that you can no longer stay in a situation You may find feelings that you previously did not wish to deal with assert themselves, such as grief or anger You may begin a long healing process There is no knowing what may happen as the result of a soul retrieval In a few cases a person may literally experiences a complete turn around of their life to a more joyful way of being In some cases it begins a process of changes that take time to fully emerge A. of course some people feel that not mu. really happened as a result of their soul retrieval Your instincts should tell you what to clo, antl the practitioner can help you determine if a soul retrieval would be helpful to you at this time
If you need support after a soul retrieval, your shamanic pra.tioner may be able to help you You can also find support from a therapist or a counselor If you feel that you would like a soul retrieval, but have a feeling of fear because it is unknown, you can always contact a pra.tioner simply discus soul retrieval or your fears Bee how you feel after you have discus. it with him or her, and then de...ether or not you wish to proceed
Reasons For the Soul's Departure
There are various reasons for soul los If a person was in an abusive situation pan of one's soul may leave to protect Self from the abuse Sometimes as a .1tl, fighting parents may prompt the soul pan to hide because the .1tl is scared If a traumatic accident is about to occur such as an impact or accident the soul would leave so that it wouldn't be effected by the force of the accident It a loved one is last, the soul part may go until the person is ready to deal with their grief All of these are very healthy mechanisms of protection In some cases the soul part will return on its own But if it does not realize how to return, or it it does not know that it is sate to return - the shaman may need to assist the return of that missing piece

Cords and other types of Soul Loss: 
Another way to lose one's soul is to give it to someone When two people are in love, or when they are in a family, it is sometimes occurs that they will give portions of their soul to their loved ones A mother may give some to her child because she wishes to protect him or her This type of soul exchange may seem acceptable because of a person's desire to share themselves with another, but it is generally not a good idea An individual can't use another person's soul, because simply: it is not their soul The person must then deal with this unusable energy in addition to his or her own problems In addition, the persons who have given a piece of their soul away have disempowered themselves
The over's journey is made more difficult because they are not fully present to do the living of their life It is a lose-lose situation Because we are not taught about soul loss we clo this soul sharing unconsciously Ps individuals becomes more conscious of this dynamic they can rind more empowering ways of sharing love and affection in their close relationships You can see the language of soul Icas in everyday speaking, people referring to how they "lost a piece of themselves" when they parted with a lover, or people saying "you stole my life from me " 
Another reason for soul Icas is called soul stealing, perhaps we should say borrowing iks we sad before, the average person today is unconscious of the soul dynamic Bo soul stealing can be innocent, you see someone with lots of energy and you want to borrow some of it You are afraid of losing someone, so you take a piece of that person with you so that you will always have him or her close by Soul stealing can also be a way to dominate another For instance soul stealing may be seen where an abusive spouse has taken his or her partners soul When you take someone's soul you take some of that person, power
It is important to know that no one can take your soul without your consent If someone has stolen your soul, you have in some sense given it to them or allowed them to have it. If you feel for some reason that someone is tugging at your soul, make a firm decision within yourself that they cannot have it and they will not be able to take it from you
Symptoms of Soul Lass: 
Soul Icas would be comparable to the psychological concept of disassociation Some of the symptoms that would indicate soul loss to a shaman include: depression, a feeling of incompleteness, an inability to move fonuard on some issue, last memories, feeling like your not in control your life, people who say I felt like pan of me died whep n , or people who say I feel like so and so stole my soul Soul Icas is often accomanied by a feeling that something is missing from life
Once again the language of our society refers to soul lass. I last something when I lost my ph, I never felt the same after my accident Goma is a situation of extreme soul loss, where more of the soul is out of the body then in Ps with the other proteave feature of soul lass, this can be very appropriate If the body is in a great deal of pain, or if the soul needs time to consider its situation a coma provides needed time Shock is another symptom orsoul lass, where the individual's soul hasn't returned yet or hasn't reentered the hotly A person frequently wishes to return to his or her last soul So it the soul pan was last to a person, or in a specific place, an individual may an urge to return to that place or person even when there seems to be no outward reason to clo so Occasionally, a person having suicidal thoughts may be because of a desire to reunite with one's last soul pieces
The Soul Retrieval Process: 
It the shaman suspects soul lass. or he would then purney shamanically to determine it the return of a soul piece is needed at this time Once the appropriate healing action is determined, the shaman would then take another purney to retrieve any soul pieces that want to come back at this time
In the practices taught in the US antl in many pans of the world, the shaman brings the soul pieces back with them from his or her journey The healer would then blow each piece back into the hotly of the client. one at time. focusing so that the soul essence fills that person hotly
It is not usually the case that an individual would do this for one's self For one thing, an essential component of shamanic healing is the love that is felt when someone performs a healing for you The act of receiving, a feeling that the universe is wanting the best for you

Also, it is not always easy for the person to perform the soul retrieval process on themselves Some possible ways, however, include asking for the souls return - putting the question to the universe, or asking your guardian spirits to return soul pieces to you It is certainly.. the power of the individual to release any soul part they may have because of soul sharing.

Don't overlook the importance of having someone perform a soul retrieval for you because you feel you must do it on your own It is important to be active one's own healing, but an active part is generally essential once the soul is returned to you The soul retrieval itself is very much about receiving, so whether you engage the assistance of a shamanic practitioner or not, don't forget this essential component
When performing a soul retrieval the shamanic practitioner will create a sacred space for you, one where you are held in a container or love, and one that protects you from interrerences of the outside world If a client becomes vulnerable during the soul retrieval the shamanic praationer protects that vulnerability It isn't easy to do this for oneself, - and- perrorm the soul retrieval, and drum, and be receiving you get the idea.


The Soul's Return: 
Celebrate the pyous return to yourself In indigenous cultures with actve shamans, individuals would not be without their soul pieces for very long The return would often be accompanied by celebration, or a mous wel by become from family members In today's culture however, an entire lifebrne can go fore certain pieces come home such that the soul retrieval is a bit like the reWrn of the prodigal son Whatever the case, its important to celebrate the re,m of your vital essence back to where it belongs- in the same way we would celebrate the return of a long last loved one
People's reactions after their soul retrieval are very varied Just as varied as the wide array of people there are in the world You are unique and so is your returning soul The array of people there are in the world You are unique and so is your returning soul The return will mean different things to different people so its important not to have any preconceived notions about what you might Some people. great py, some people satlness,some people feel fuller,some people. lighter, some people. nothing The list is endless
Some of the benefits that have been experienced by people who have received a soul retrieval include; a greater ability to make decisions in their lire, a sense of being more present in their lire, the ability to move pass an issue that previously could not, the beginning of a new growth or healing process, an ability to begin dealing with grief Each person is unique and will experience different results from their soul retrieval Some soul retrieval practitioners will tell you what gifts are retning more fully to you with the return of a specific part of yourself For instance the return of your ability to hope, or confidence in yourself The practitioner cannot tell you in advance what will come from the soul retrieval It is possible that the soul retrieval will complete a healing process, but it is also pcssible that it will begin the work of new healing and new growing
With the soul return you must be open, not only so that you can fully receive.. is being returned, but also so that you can notice any indications of new needs in your life Perhaps you need to have more fun to meet the needs of the returned piece of your self, perhaps you need to go outside more, perhaps you need to give your self a period of introspection after the soul retrieval has occurred Possibly, the sours return will begin a new healing process Perhaps the soul retrieval was just the last of a missing piece in your healing process If the soul retrieval is to be effective you must listen to yourself You must care for yourself as you would a new born, and give your self whatever you find is needed now that the gift of you has been received. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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What to Expect During A Shamanic Healing

Private Healing sessions are generally two hours long. We will talk for half an hour to focus on areas in which you would like assistance. You will sit or lie in a comfortable position while I perform necessary healing on the clients energetic body, sometimes called the aura. No physical touch is involved and you will remain fully clothed during a session.

It is strongly recommended that you take the afternoon or evening off after a session to rest and restore. Abstinence from alcohol, drugs, and sexual activity are required for 3 - 21 days after a session depending on your needs.

Shamanic Healings are also initiations. Shifts and changes will occur in the weeks and months after the healing. As is the case with all types of energy medicine the shifts can range from subtle to profound, with some shifts happening immediately and others unfolding over time. During this process, many new insights and inspirations will come to you.  It is expected that you continue to work thoughtfully to integrate and process your healing.